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Snow Pea Spring Salad is a fine vegetable choice to complement the beautiful spring we are all enjoying! Many of us find our appetites are turning away from root vegetables towards lighter, crisper, spring vegetables. Snow peas, scallions, and radishes are definitely among the season’s earliest fresh offerings, and this salad showcases them beautifully. It’s a perfect side for your lunch or dinner!

Snow Pea Spring Salad is also great when you have the munchies and really need to crunch on something delicious. Pat yourself on the back for choosing this crisp veggie salad over chips or crackers!

Snow Pea Spring Salad

Recipe inspired by one from Elie Krueger
Makes 4 servings of 3/4 cup each

Ingredients:
  • 2 cups (8 ounces) snow peas, stem ends trimmed
  • 1 tbs water
  • 1/4 cup unseasoned rice vinegar
  • 2 tsp sugar substitute or plant-based equivalent
  • 1 tbs safflower, canola or olive oil
  • 2 scallions (white and green parts), thinly sliced
  • 4 radishes, trimmed and cut into matchsticks (about 1/2 cup)
Instructions:
  1. Put the snow peas in a microwave-safe bowl with the water. Cover tightly and microwave for 1 minute. Drain and let cool.
  2. In a small bowl, whisk together vinegar, sugar, and oil until the sugar dissolves.
  3. Cut the cooled snow peas on the diagonal into 1/2-inch pieces.
  4. In a medium serving bowl, combine the snow peas, scallions, and radishes.  Pour the dressing over the salad and serve.
Notes: Grated carrots are wonderful in this salad! Add 3/4 cup grated carrots to the snow peas and cook them together for 2 minutes; then proceed with the rest of the recipe.
If you’re not a fan of radishes, grated carrot is a good replacement for them as well.

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Happy Monday!

On today’s “Man Over Mind” podcast, we welcome the host of the Dad Up podcast Bryan Ward!

Bryan is a championship basketball coach, former Marine and most of all he is proud to be a Dad to his two boys.

The Dad Up podcast show is for dads about dads being dads.

The show will have great guests that will share their experiences being dads and how they have managed raising kids and being successful in their careers.

 

Get insights & motivation about making the most out of today, overcoming Self Doubt & MORE
on Joe’s NEW podcast – Man Over Mind.
While it’s specifically designed for men, anyone can find tremendous value.
In fact, the feedback from our female audience has been overwhelmingly positive!


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What’s Cooking?

Today’s Quick Moo Shu Pork can solve at least one weeknight dinner struggle for you. The struggle? You want good food: lean protein and lots of veggies. But everyone’s hangry and you need it fast. Cut your kitchen time by making use of prepared, pre-packaged ingredients. Quick Moo Shu Pork uses a 1lb. unseasoned pork tenderloin from the meat case, bagged coleslaw, sliced mushrooms, and frozen cauliflower rice. You can even buy the jars of pre-minced garlic and ginger to save time–just make sure they contain nothing but product, water and perhaps a tiny bit of salt.  You bring all the ingredients together in minutes and get your household fed fast and well!

Quick Moo Shu Pork

Recipe inspired by one from Martha Stewart
Makes 4 servings

Ingredients:
  • 1-lb pork tenderloin (unseasoned), sliced and diced into 1-1/2″ pieces
  • 4 tbs reduced sodium soy sauce
  • 1 tbs unseasoned rice vinegar
  • 1 tbs hoisin sauce, plus extra for serving
  • 2 tbs water
  • 3 tbs safflower oil
  • 3 cloves garlic, minced
  • 1 tbs minced fresh ginger
  • 1 bunch scallions, white and green parts, thinly sliced
  • 8 ounces sliced shiitake mushrooms (can substitute baby bella or white button if needed)
  • 1 12-oz bag coleslaw
  • 4 cups of frozen cauliflower rice; cooked and kept warm in a covered dish
  • toasted sesame seeds (optional)
Instructions:
  1. In a bowl, toss the pork with 2 tbs soy sauce; let stand 10 minutes. Meanwhile whisk together the remaining 2 tbs soy sauce, rice vinegar, hoisin sauce, and water.
  2. In a large nonstick skillet over medium-high heat, add 1 tbs of oil. Add half the pork and cook 2 minutes or until browned on one side; flip pieces over and brown the other side.
    Remove the pork to a dish. Add another tbs of oil and repeat with the remaining pork.
  3. Without wiping skillet, add the garlic, ginger, and scallions and cook for 30 seconds. Add mushrooms and cook for 2 minutes. Add the final tbs of oil and the coleslaw.
    Cook and stir for 2 minutes until vegetables are tender. Add soy mixture and cooked pork back to skillet and cook/toss for 1 final minute.
  4. To serve: place 1 cup cauliflower rice in the center of each of 4 plates. Divide the Moo Shu Pork over each plate. Sprinkle with toasted sesame seeds (optional). Pass the hoisin sauce.
Notes:
  • Moo Shu pork is not typically a hot dish, but if you’d like to add a little kick to your serving, add several dashes of Sriracha or another hot sauce.
  • Need even MORE veggies? Broccoli is a classic accompaniment to stir fry; steam up a batch while the pork is marinating.

 


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Happy Monday!

There was a time in my life when I was on two reality shows within two years! I competed to win because I thought winning would get me the chance to “help more people.”  What I didn’t understand is that I already had (and still have) exactly what I need to help more people. But the ego likes to disguise intentions to make them sound good. The ego loves  “more” or “new” of anything that you don’t currently have.

 

Glamour- and desire-driven goals bond us to the thing we are after. We become attached to getting the thing and develop an emotional dependency of “needing it.”

 

On a subconscious level, we experience guilt when we act out of desire/lust and it comes at a cost.

 

Self esteem decreases and we experience envy, jealousy and that feeling that what we are doing is never enough.

 

Yet when we let go and “de-glamorize” the world, we are no longer at the mercy of our need for approval from others or from the ego itself. We free ourselves when we realize that we don’t need anything more than what we already have.

 

Understanding that you are not your thoughts, your goals or even your body. YOU are the one that witnesses this unfolding movie of life…nothing outside of YOU can ultimately change YOU.

 

When we can hone in on this level of awareness, we find inner peace and freedom.

 

When You Understand Do vs. Get

We still have goals, but now we understand they exist more for the journey towards them, rather than simply achieving them. You still put in all the effort, but know that you are not owed anything in return.

 

In this way expectations start to diminish and you can begin to enjoy things for what they are.

 

Contrary to what I had always thought, it turns out life is much better when you SLOW down and enjoy what’s right in front of you.

 

We have this illusion that there’s somewhere better to be, something better to be doing, something that is MORE than what we already have. Yet what good is “better” if you can’t enjoy what you already have?

 

There are no cheat codes in life. To ascend beyond your current stage, YOU must DO.

 

And remember that there’s a big difference between “do” and “get.”

 

We’ve become conditioned to expect to “get” everything immediately:

  • from social media algorithms designed to give us instant gratification to keep us engaged
  • to Amazon’s two day deliveries on just about any product you could ever want
  • to overly plentiful fast food options

 

We want what we want, and we want it now. 

 

Yet anything that delivers instant gratification lacks true substance.

  • The “like” or the new friend on social media is nowhere near as important as the bond of a best friend you’ve had for years, or the in-person friendly exchange with the stranger behind you in line. Online life cannot compare to real life human interaction.
  • Receiving something from Amazon does not give the same type of gratification as would researching to find the product you want, and nowhere close to building it yourself.
  • Fast food may taste good, but that taste is only temporary. The negative impact of the poor nutrition it provides lasts far longer.

 

Things we think we need generally fall under the “lust” category. But because the thing cannot deliver upon the permanent solution we are after, we then attach ourselves to the next thing. And so we end up constantly chasing after things that will never make us happy.

 

Expecting to “Get” sets us up for an endless cycle of negative emotion when we are not forever elated with what we got. We lose that ultra-high feeling quickly and chase after the next thing in search of that emotional high. 

 

Do it For the Right Reasons

When you focus on “doing” something for the right reasons, you discover more about yourself and all that you are capable of.

 

You must EXPLORE your inner most capabilities and reframe any “failures” as “learnings.” Use what has worked as fuel forward and what did not as guidelines of what to do differently in the future.

 

The happiest people I know are not necessarily the richest but those who are the most fulfilled. The origin of fulfillment is self-growth, which must be earned.

 

Over 3 years ago my wife and I moved down to Florida–something I wanted to do my entire life. I had this vision of it as a utopia in which everything would be perfect! However, the reality is that moving away from family & friends and businesses created tremendous stress…as did starting a life and  business with no ties.

 

The day I graduated from college, the idea of starting my own business was exciting and was going to be awesome! Until I drove home after the ceremony and realized I had no idea how to make it work, no money and no backup plan.

 

I’ve always thought that when I get X or move to Y, I’ll be good. Goals tend to lead us to believe in that if we could only achieve them, life would be perfect. The reality is that with every accomplishment comes a new set of problems!

 

There’s great wisdom in the cliche “Wherever you go, there you are.” Because no matter where you go and what happens, it’s up to YOU to work through your inner issues. Only by doing the hard work will you be able to let yourself be present and enjoy what’s around you.

 

 

 

Get insights & motivation about making the most out of today, overcoming Self Doubt & MORE
on Joe’s NEW podcast – Man Over Mind.
While it’s specifically designed for men, anyone can find tremendous value.
In fact, the feedback from our female audience has been overwhelmingly positive!


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What’s Cooking?

Sweet & Sour Cucumber Salad is a fresh take on an old favorite. Instead of serving cucumbers just as a snack or as a salad component, why not feature them as a star side dish? This salad has distinct Asian influence, with rice vinegar, soy sauce, and sesame oil. But it will complement just about any meal you serve it alongside. It’s fresh and light, with hints of sweet, salty, and nutty flavors. Grab a couple of English cucumbers (they work best) next time you’re at the store and give this recipe a try!

Sweet & Sour Cucumber Salad

Recipe inspired by one from Kary Osmond
Makes 4 servings

Ingredients:
  • 1-2 English cucumbers
  • 1/2 tsp salt
  • 2 tsp brown sugar or equivalent substitute, such as Swerve Brown Sugar or Truvia Brown Sugar Blend
  • 1 tbs rice vinegar
  • 1 tsp soy sauce
  • 1 tsp toasted sesame oil
  • 1 garlic clove, minced
  • 2 tsp toasted sesame seeds
  • 1/4 cup chopped cilantro
  • chili oil, as desired (optional)
Instructions:
  1. Split the cucumber in half lengthwise and cut into 1/4 diagonal slices. Place the sliced cucumber in a colander over a bowl, sprinkle with salt and toss. Let stand for 15 minutes to release liquid from the cucumbers
  2. In a medium serving bowl, whisk together sugar, vinegar, soy sauce, sesame oil, and garlic until sugar has dissolved. Add in the drained cucumbers and toss well. Garnish with sesame seeds and chopped cilantro.
  3. If you want the Sweet and Sour Cucumber Salad to have a spicy little kick, add a few drops of chili oil to the finished salad and toss to blend.

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Happy Monday!

We can’t go back in time to change important events or experiences. What we can do is review our past events and experiences and mine them for insight, meaning and possibility.

If we continue to have negative feelings about something that “happened” to us, it means our development has stalled. We are holding onto and attaching ourselves to event from the past rather than moving forward, learning and growing from those events.

Take time to find the benefits and drawbacks of situations. By doing so you will become aware of you perceive things, allowing you can find a level of neutrality. Anything short of neutrality will cause us to be depressed or over-elated; neither of which extremes are true. Depression (and over-elation) are just one-sided perceptions –based on how we feel about something–that impacts our decision making here and now.

Creating a better future isn’t just possible, it’s the most logical option. Why punish yourself for the rest of your life by holding on to your past? No matter what happened to you, holding onto those feelings is like dragging  an anchor behind you every day.

The pain from our past can hurt such that it changes how we see things. And the longer we carry the pain, the harder it is to separate ourselves from that pain which then begins to become part of our identity. What would happen if you decided to face those emotions so you can let them go? What would happen if you opened yourself to feeling different?

 

The major or tiny traumas from your past prevent you from living a better life. As you hold onto these traumas, so your life adapts. You attract people who also feel that way and you see the world through a limited lens. Think about it: if you’re carrying unresolved pain from the past, you are closing off yourself to growth and will see the world as limited and fixed.

 

Everything about you

  • how you dress, talk and think
  • the people you choose to spend your time with
  • what you choose to spend your time watching and reading

all these things happen according to your identity, which is tied to the trauma of your past.

 

The mind is brilliant at making more of whatever we focus on. But that means that on a subconscious level, our pain from repressed emotions becomes our highest value–even above our health and family.

 

As you’re reading this, if you’re feeling resistant to these ideas, take notes. Later, take time to lean into those feelings and examine them. Emotions are the path towards change and growth. If something doesn’t feel right, it’s not going to change until YOU change.

 

It’s extra difficult when you’ve lost a loved one because you must accept life without that person. In a way, you experience guilt when you even think about moving forward in our life without that person, as if it minimizes that person’s meaning in your life. Just remember nothing can take away the moments you shared; those memories will always be there for you. And refusing to move forward (whether consciously or subconsciously) without that person will only make you to see pain in your world.

How we talk about our past has more to do with where we are at now than it does our actual past.

 

Listen to this week’s podcast for how you can break your cycle of pain and free yourself from limiting beliefs!

 

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Get insights & motivation about making the most out of today, overcoming Self Doubt & MORE
on Joe’s NEW podcast – Man Over Mind.
While it’s specifically designed for men, anyone can find tremendous value.
In fact, the feedback from our female audience has been overwhelmingly positive!


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What’s Cooking?

Slow Cooker Tomato Soup is the perfect basis of a light meal Spring meal! While days are certainly warmer and sunnier, nights can still be cool and have us wishing for warm, comforting food, like a good tomato soup. This soup is made in the slow cooker–the only thing more convenient is takeout! While you are racing through your busy day, this soup is developing rich flavors not possible in the popular canned variety.

This soup would be terrific served alongside a salad of chopped veggies with a cooked protein of your choice. How about rotisserie chicken? Or maybe a serving of cottage cheese? You could also cut up some carrot & celery sticks, and roll up a few slices of uncured, low-sodium meats and reduced fat cheeses to nibble on as you sip your soup from a mug. The healthy possibilities are endless!

Slow Cooker Tomato Soup

Recipe inspired b: savoryonline.com
Makes 6 servings

Ingredients:
  • 2 (28 oz) cans reduced-sodium whole peeled tomatoes
  • 1 (6 oz) can tomato paste (reduced-sodium if possible)
  • 1 medium onion, finely chopped
  • 4 cloves garlic, chopped
  • 2 cups low-sodium vegetable broth
  • 2 tsp dried oregano
  • 1/4 tsp freshly ground black pepper
  • 1/2 cup low-fat milk
  • 2 tbs unsalted pastured butter
  • chopped scallions or chives (optional)
Instructions:
  1. To a 4-quart or larger slow cooker, add the whole peeled tomatoes, tomato paste, onion, garlic, broth, oregano and pepper. Cover and cook on low 7–8 hours.
  2. Just before serving the soup, add the milk and butter to the slow cooker and stir until butter is melted. With immersion blender (or a blender) purée soup until smooth.
  3. Taste the soup and season with salt and pepper to taste.  Ladle soup into bowls or mugs and serve. Sprinkle chives or scallions over the top, if desired.

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Happy Monday!

Do you feel like you’re running on the proverbial hamster wheel in one or more areas of life?

Are you living by default or design?

On today’s episode of the “Man Over Mind” podcast, Joe talks about the difference between DOING and BEING. Joe gives you a lens through which to see the world.

  • You can break the cycle of whatever is no longer serving you.
  • You can free yourself from old patterns, old thought, and old behaviors that no longer serve you.
  • You have the ability to get unstuck from whatever is currently holding you back.

You can get to where you want to be!

 

Get insights & motivation about making the most out of today
on Joe’s NEW podcast – Man Over Mind.
While it’s specifically designed for men, anyone can find tremendous value.
In fact, the feedback from our female audience has been overwhelmingly positive!


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What’s Cooking?

Today’s Mahi Mahi Fajitas recipe lets you enjoy the deliciousness of fresh fajitas in your own home, without the flour or corn tortillas. You don’t even need to fire up the grill; these fajitas are oven-roasted atop mounds of fresh bell peppers and onions.

Note that you can also make this recipe with cod or halibut instead of mahi mahi.

Mahi Mahi Fajitas

Recipe inspiration from allrecipes.com
Makes 4 servings

Ingredients:
  • 3 tbs olive oil
  • 2 tbs lime juice (from 2 limes)
  • 1 tsp chili powder
  • 1 tsp ground cumin
  • 1 tsp smoked paprika
  • 1/2 tsp salt
  • 1/4 tsp onion powder
  • 1/4 tsp garlic powder
  • 1/4 tsp black pepper
  • 1/8 tsp cayenne pepper, or to taste
  • 2 medium red bell peppers, sliced lengthwise into 1/4″ sticks
  • 2 medium green or orange bell peppers, sliced lengthwise into 1/4″ sticks
  • 1 large white onion, sliced into thin wedges from root to stem
  • 4 (4 -6 oz ounce) mahi mahi fillets, cut into 1-inch slices and placed in a glass or ceramic dish
  • 4 cups cauliflower rice; cooked and kept hot
  • extra lime wedges, fresh salsa, finely shredded lettuce or cabbage, chopped scallions, guacamole, plain yogurt and hot sauce
Instructions:
  1. Preheat the oven to 400 F. Line a large baking sheet with parchment paper.

  2. In a small bowl, stir together the olive oil, lemon juice, chili powder, cumin, smoked paprika, salt, onion powder, garlic powder, black pepper and cayenne pepper.

  3. Spread bell peppers and onion on the prepared sheet pan. Pour 1/2 the marinade over vegetables; toss until well coated. Place vegetables in the oven for 10 minutes.
  4. Drizzle the remaining marinade over the mahi mahi; gently toss until well coated. Let the fish stand while the vegetables roast.
  5. Remove vegetables from the oven and arrange mahi mahi pieces on top. Return to the oven and cook until fish is cooked through and flakes easily with a fork, about 12 more minutes.
  6. To serve, spoon some cauliflower rice on each plate. Divide the cooked mahi-mahi and vegetables over the cauliflower rice.
  7. Pass the extra lime wedges, fresh salsa, lettuce, scallions, guacamole, plain yogurt and hot sauce to dress the fajitas as desired.

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Happy Monday!

My first introduction to the Ego was from Ryan Holiday’s book The Ego Is The Enemy.

 

I didn’t know a lot about the ego, but it made sense that it was the enemy given what I knew about the word.

 

Being egotistical essentially meant you had your head up your ass. Amirite?

 

Yet as I began to learn more about the Ego and reflect on my own experience, I started to see the Ego as less of an enemy and more of an ally. 

 

Today I’d like to share my experience, perspective and what I’ve learned about the Ego. I invite you to develop your own conclusions.

 

According to the Oxford language, the Ego is a person’s sense of esteem or self-importance. 

 

If we are aware of the ego, it’s actually neither good nor bad. The ego is detrimental when we allow it to operate subconsciously, without actively observing its thoughts.

 

Note that the ego’s thoughts are not your thoughts. The ego is not you, it’s just a part of you. 

 

Freud’s personality theory saw the psyche as three parts: Id, Ego and Superego

 

  1. Id: The primitive and animalist aspect of us who operates unconsciously. It’s impulsive and instinctive, responding directly to our basic needs & desires.
  2. Ego:  That ‘part of the id which has been modified by the direct influence of the external world.’ The ego is the bridge between the external world and your ID. The ego in this sense is acting out the ID’s demands, in a more rational way. Whereas the Id is more impulsive, the Ego acts more careful in considering how the world will respond to your actions. 

 

  1. Superego: The conscience which punishes the ego through guilt and the ideal self, which is your interpretation of how you should be, based on your values & perceptions of the world. 

 

I share Freud’s Personality Theory to prove a very important point – there is a lot more going inside your head than you think. At any given point, there are multiple parts of your psyche all competing against each other. 

 

How the Ego Can Be the Enemy

While there are many different definitions of Ego, one thing we know is that it’s tied to self importance and self esteem. Neither of those are bad, but if not kept in check they can cause us to judge and minimize ourselves and others.

 

Typically when we think of Ego, we think of the really smart and/or good looking person who has their head far up their ass. The person who thinks their shit doesn’t stink, if you will.

 

Yet this idea of self importance is also tied directly to the victim mentality. You victimize yourself when you believe that your issues (whether weight, family, personal etc.) are particularly unique and especially unfair. The victim mentality looks at others and minimizes their issues, while firmly believing their own issues are far more important and complicated!

 

If we obsess over our self image, whether too positively or too negatively, we allow the Ego to run the show and distort our reality. 

 

How Do You Know When the Ego Will Assert Itself?

 

  • When you aspire to do something new:
    • Common to worry about what others will say, what if it doesn’t work out as we want to.
    • It can cause us to overthink and therefore distract us from doing the work.
  • When we reach a level of success:
    • The ego can convince us that just because one thing went well, that everything else must too. 
    • A side effect here is to take on too much and dilute our energies. This commonly happens when you achieve success early on.
    • Confidence vs. Arrogance: 

Confidence: Healthy self-belief in your abilities. Knowing that not everything is going to go your way but that there is opportunity for growth in every attempt.

Arrogance: I am the shizz and everyone will know it!

  • When we experience a setback:
    • Because the ego is about self importance, when something doesn’t go our way, the ego will attempt to protect you.
    • This shows up as being defensive and blaming others. 

 

Make Your Ego Your Ally

Build your self esteem so that you act with confidence, not arrogance. Consider the following filters:

    1. Discernment over Judgement:  Discernment involves your insights and understanding what’s going on, whereas judgement tends to happen automatically based on our own wounds.
    2. Kindness over Being Right: Wanting to be right or the “Woe is Me” mentality are the negative aspects of the ego protecting your self-importance. Yet there is nothing to protect because there truly is nothing to fear. Nothing in the outside world can deter your sense of self or determine your self-importance. This is an inner game. As long as you love yourself for who you are, you are able to be kind and not feel the need to defend.
    3. Self-Compassion over Perfectionism: Self compassion is accepting where you’re at, knowing it’s exactly where you should be and appreciating your life. Perfectionism puts you in a state of constant chasing, where you think you should be and do something other than what you already are. 

 

The Ego will put you down or lift you up. Yet if used with intention, it will empower us as illustrated by the Frank Shamrock “+ – = System.” Frank is one of the most successful mixed martial arts (MMA) fighters of all time. His “Shamrock System” is based on the ideas of  Plus,